Woman Confesses Love for Friend's Husband And Asks If Couple Will Open the Relationship for Her, Tearing Friendship Apart

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    r/AITAH u/ImAStan4You • 21h Aitah for rejecting my friends request to have an open relationship with my husband?
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    The I (30F) have been married to my husband (32M) for five years. We have 2 beautiful kids (5m and 6f) and have a very strong relationship and are happy together. Recently, my "friend" Lisa (29F) confided in me that she has developed feelings for my husband. She said that she finds him attractive and admires our relationship, and she asked if we would consider having an open relationship so she could be with him too.
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    I was shocked and told her no, explaining that my husband and I are committed to each other and that we are not interested in an open relationship. Lisa got upset and accused me of being selfish and closed-minded. She argued that modern relationships should be flexible and that I was denying her happiness.
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    Since then, Lisa has been distant and has been spreading rumors in our friend group, suggesting that I am overly possessive and controlling. This has caused a lot of tension, and some of our mutual friends are now taking sides. My husband is supportive of my decision, but I feel guilty for the drama it has caused.
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    So, AITA for rejecting my friend's request to have an open relationship with my husband? Edit: This attracted a lot more attention very fast then I thought it would, I've read most of your comments and I think tomorrow I will talk to the whole friend group about it and I'll update after.
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    Update 1: After reading some of your comments, I decided to bring the group out for coffee and I told them all about what Lisa said and the REAL story. I also showed them the reddit post. After showing them, there were 2 girls that were still on Lisa's side, so I took some advice from the comments and said "let Lisa I your husband, then you can be on her side" after that everyone was on my side thankfully. Lisa wasn't happy at all and she started ranting about how it "wasn't fair" she "just want
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    Will update if something happens. Also just clarifying that Lisa also asked my husband for an open marriage, he also rejected saying that "even if I was I would never want to go out with you" I'm thinking of cutting off the ladies that were on Lisa's side for so long. But I'm not sure if they heard a different story or not. So should I? 19k ☐ 6,929
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    NTA Status-Pattern7539 20h Group message everyone, as you know she is lying to them. "Hi everyone, I thought I would clear up some things as everyone is now talking about my relationship or how I'm "controlling". Telling Lisa that she cannot sleep with MY husband is not controlling. Telling Lisa my husband and I are monogamous is not controlling. If any of you want to volunteer your partners to be in an open relationship with Lisa, go ahead. But my partner and I are not interested. He is not and
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    TheOtherAccount|Use9 • 20h Your husband does NOT want it, you and your husband are happily monogamous, end of discussion. She's not your friend she's an attempted homewrecker, they are not your mutuals they are her flying monkeys. Cut them out of your like if they think this is acceptable. NTA, obviously Reply Ŵ 3.7k ♡
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    NTA TarzanKitty ⚫ 21h Tell the friends that are on her side to let her their husbands. Reply 14.6k
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    ApprehensiveCat8639 20h Time for your husband to call this out and shut her down (for your sake, and to shut down this gossipyBS within your friend group) - you saying no is one thing, but he's clearly not interested and Lisa needs to hear that from him as well. She's deeply delusional. NTA, at all Reply 105
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    not Augustbutordinary ⚫ 20h The only way that you could be the AH in this situation is if you don't tell every member of your social group what Lisa did. At present you are allowing her to dictate a false narrative. Stop her from doing that. Ask any of your mutual friends if they want their partner's sharing Lisa's bed? Reply 190
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    Beautiful-Story2811 • 20h I love the message, but it should come from the husband. He needs to shut that I down just as hard. I'm sure if it just comes from her, these de- lu-losers will just take it as her being 'controlling'. 1.4k No-Resource-8125 • 19h "Hi everyone. I just wanted to clarify something. I'm not attracted to Lisa. I am not interested in any type of relationship with her. I'm only interested in a monogamous relationship with my wife. OP is not controlling. This is my decision and
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    completedett • 20h YTA why are feeling guilty? Don't Be such a doormat. Fight for your husband, marriage and family life. Lisa is incredibly selfish person who doesn't care about you, your husband or your children. She wants what she wants, she sounds unhinged. Your husband is not a toy or a play thing to passed to her. Tell everyone and then go NC with Lisa and all the friends who side with her. Reply 41
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    Monicaa_serenityy ⚫ 21h Wow, your friend has some nerve! You're definitely NTA for rejecting her ridiculous request. Reply 21
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    wacky_spaz • 20h My first thought was they're doing it and looking to make it official / out in the open. Doesn't make sense any other way Updateme 20
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    SonnyRyann • 19h That's what I'm saying. She could be certifiably crazy, but in what world does this happen?? My first thought was that they are already sleeping together. My second thought was, "Maybe not sleeping together, but something had to have happened." Plus the friends taking Lisa's side is a red flag. Maybe they know something OP doesn't. Of course I HOPE she's just crazy and randomly wants to | her husband. Since they have a family, I'd never want to be correct. ↑ 8 ♡
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    daniboyi • 19h doubt it. If Lisa and husband was already cheating, then Lisa would 100 % spill the beans instantly since she already lost her game. She is 100% the type to go scorched earth. 8 7 3
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    coopertucker • 17h It's insane that you ask this question. She envies your relationship and wants to your husband, her ultimate goal is to destroy you marriage and take your husband away from you. I pretty sure they've made a few movies about this. She is trying to rally the group to support her. She's not your friend. The people in your group siding with her are not your friends. Reply 33
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    Stay UpLatePlayGames • 19h I'm going to bet that just hours before the drama started there was a sentence "I'm up for it but you'll have to convince my wife." 1 more reply Reply Ĵ9♡
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    Dugturt • 20h I would be really concerned about your husbands relationship with Lisa, it would be almost psychotic of her to suggest this without believing he would be into it.... Not saying it's not possible, and you're definitely NTA. Your husband might be tho :/ Reply Ŵ 24 ♡
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    OP... clearheaded01 • 20h . Logically i dont see how she could just spring this on you without a fairly good idea that your husband would be inclined to accept it... If you dig into your husbands phone/SM you may find the reason why Lisa thought this was a good idea... EDIT: NTA Reply Ŵ 42 ♡

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